my fiNaL proJect abOut feeLing inferior / minder

In modern world everybody wants to be a perfect one. But no body is perfect in this earth. Someone who has problem in physical appearance will become inferior. Feeling inferior is a horrible feeling. No one was born inferior. Its just an idea that you have in your mind. And you are free to change it.

When we feel inferior, we see other people as being something more talented and more successful than us. We want to be like them but
we tell to our selves that we can not. When we think like that, a horrible feeling will come even as we fell this, we will feel angry. “why do others have so much and I have nothing?” However, feeling inferior is simple idea that we have great opportunity to change it.

Our society tells us that some people are superior and others are inferior. Many people take this message to be an accurate description of what the world is like. But, if we are wise enough, we know that there is a motive behind this message.

Many people believe that, if you don’t have a lot of money you are nothing. And almost every people in our society does believe to this statement.

When we see our selves as being inferior to other people, we become frightened of other people. Because we feat that when they realize how inferior we are, they will be unkind to us and reject us. Being frightened to other people means that we dare not get close to other people and really get to know why they act and be have like that. It means that we are always lonely. We are always in danger of blaming ourselves for any disaster that may put us in any more difficult situation and condition.

What makes someone feel down?

1. Thinking that others are perfect, and we are not be able to be like them

2. Never get success in life and always easy to give up.

3. Not support from environment, such as family, friends, society and others

4. Having unsupportive friends who always put everything just kidding.

I. Thinking that others are perfect, and we are not be able to be like them

When we are see somebody who looks beautiful we will think, how could she look so beautiful? And we will always imagine how we can be like them. When we are always the perfect people, we will think that we are the one who is very ugly. And when we are together with perfect one we will think “she is perfect and I can not be like that.” When we think like that, it will influence our feeling and it makes us to fell down.

Many kinds of people that we see in this world. For examples, many different characters, intelligences and physics that we find in our school. Sometimes our inferior feeling comes up. Such as, we have a best friend who always get the first rank in class and we never get it. It makes us embarrassed and thinking that we are not suitable to get close with her/him.

II. Never get success in life and always easy to give up

Some one who never gets success will feel inferior because they think that they are the stupid one. They can not get success because they always give up to do something. When they have problems, they can not solve the problems and they just give up. They think that they can not do something better for their lives and it makes them to be bad character.

According to example at first point, when we think like that and never try something good, we also stay in inferior feeling, because it comes when we always feel easy to give up. So, we never finished doing anything. If we do like that, automatically inferior feeling comes up when other people finished that we never finished yet.

III. Not support from environment, such as family, friends, society and others

The environment where we live influence our feelings. When the environment is good, it can support their lives. But, when the environment not supportive, it also makes them feel inferior. Such as, if they have broken home family, no bodies can support them to be a good one. Although they have friends, family has an important role for the teenagers live. When their parents don’t understand what they want, this family condition brings bad influence to the family members specially children. Children will not believe to their lives anymore.

Like the writer said before, family is an important thing, but not only family but also our society influences our character. When we live in social environment, it will make us believe with our intelligent. In social environment, everybody is free to express their feeling, because in social environment, they give a reward for everything we do when it is still positive.

IV. Having unsupportive friends who always put everything just kidding

To find good friend is difficult. So, its possible to get a bad friend. The bad friend the writer tell in this site is the friend who always keep playing kidding over some one. When they always do kidding toward their friends it can make them feeling down.

Unsupportive friends also influence us, when we do something wrong, they always keep playing kidding. They never give support, but they only make our inferior feeling comes up.

In the writer understanding, when someone gets everything she/he wants, when she/he is better than us, when she/he is perfect than us, our inferior feeling comes up.

Whenever we do something that causes us nothing but pain, we never try to do that again. This is why people will believe that they are inferior. Event ought this belief brings them so much pain. There are many advantageous we can hold if we wants to find the inferior feeling rises up.

What are the advantageous?

1. You never lose any competition because you never join any.

2. When you tell how inferior you are, your friends will tell you are wrong

3. When you tell your friends how incompetent you are, they will do something that you don’t want to do for your self.

4. You can tell your self that if other can do, I must do it.

In conclusion, inferior just an idea in your mind when you look some one better than you are. So you must delete this idea from your mind and be your self. Because inferior can be changed if you want. And feeling inferior influences by our environment. If we have good adaptation with our society, have a good friends, and be your self, the writer sure that we can avoid from inferior feeling.

In the other hand, we must discussion with our friends, how to avoid inferior feeling. The writer sure, if we want to avoid this feeling, it will out of our feeling. Many advantageous will be find if we want to discussion with our friends, such as our friend will tell us that we are wrong, and they will give support to make our inferior feeling out of our mind.

So, everybody must be your self and never compare our self with other. Because, when we are believe with our self, inferior feeling doesn’t come to us. Inferior feeling can be change if you want to change it.